No cussings, please!

Gandhi's famous 3 monkeys depicted his words, ''SEE NO EVIL, SPEAK NO EVIL & HEAR NO EVIL''. Gandhi is so right as ever. I realized it first hand. I was on you tube, searching for a video under relaxing music. That is when i stumbled up on this video , after a 30 second (loud) commercial, the video started playing the song, of course it was very soothing to both my mind and soul. I was working on a different tab, so could not pay attention to the contents of the video. When i was done with my work, i went back to the youtube page, and to my sweet surprise the video contents were from India, south India. Munnar is one of the most beautiful places in India, i have visited this place once and i am still totally in love with it! Almost at the end of the of the video, i was checking viewers comments.. most of it were positive. However, one comment left me with a bad taste... it was like one bullet fired in the air would scare away all the birds from a tree. All my peace, the joy flew away by what i read... the comment was not obnoxious, it was not even all that offensive, it read ''Fuck the commercial scared me...I was waiting for calm stuff. '' What i did not like in that comment was the usage of the word ''FUCK''. listening to such wonderful music and then reading it spoiled everything for me. The word is evil, and people should unlearn it from using it in their conversations. ''Fuck'', ''you're so gay'', ''that is so gay'' are not the words to be used for showing frustrations. The later two words are very offensive to the gay community.

I have decided that no matter what, I am never going to use such words, ever again. We all need to come up with innovative ways to show our frustrations and that should not result in profanity. If we have a point to make, we better learn to put it across without using ''cuss'' as fillers!! I am a staunch believer that if we eliminate the cussing from our every day conversation, we can successfully channel our creative energy.  The ultimate goal in ones life should be being happy. Being happy, or having a cheerful disposition comes with a lot of discipline, not the military style.  Being cognizant of our actions, time and place, will leads us to happy-ville!  Otherwise we will end-up dwelling in this place like a like a mosquito on a stagnant dirty water. What we do in between our birth and death is very important. It is extremly important that we watch-out our actions and the words. I am going to make a conscious efforts of not cussing, will you too??

Beautiful song!

I like what they have done to this song. It is very touchy, especially when I close my eyes and listen to it! This is a Tamil song, and has a wonderful meaning to it. A loose translation will be something like this ..I do not know if I have done any justice in my translation ... here it is.



Relationships are like series of episodes
But emotions are like snippet, you live the moment
Episodes may end, for some end is the beginning
Here after everything is going to be fine

Your heart is heavy, I am there for you
To take away your sorrows and pains
Why do you have tears in your eyes
I will change the tears from sadness to happiness

Sorrows may end, loneliness may adieu
Oh love ( comparing to the white clouds)
We will unite in a different kind of happiness
Life is a song, let us sing duet
Then every day is going to be a happy day
What you saw was troubles
From now onwards it is all going to be only happiness
River has a fresh force now and joins the ocea..
everything from now onwards is going to be all OK!  
 

All about being HAPPY!

A simplified life style is the key to happiness.

I want a change, to make my life exciting. I want to do things I have never done before, and I want to be good at it!! I no longer want to be in my comfort zone, i want to step out of it and go for a long walk, and never again settle in my comfort zone. I want to be happy forever, and spread that happiness to the people around. I don't want be an hostage to anger and sadness, instead i want to be the host to all the happiness in the world. And I realize today, this is possible only when i STOP Complicating things! Now on I am going to simplify my thoughts, actions and my relationships. I am going be very happy and going to spread that around. In order to simplify my life, I am going to learn to Meditate, read a lot of books, listen to musics, make great meal every day, reduce weight (read getting healthy), make great friends, do new activities, spend more time in the garden, learn more knowledge on current events, make music, be nice, develop patience. I want to be converted as someones prayers, and that would be wonderful!

I live once, so i should be more cognizant as how i lead my life. 30 years have passed by, I have seen and been through things that has made me happy, sad, angry and indifferent. From now on, my happiness is the only thing I am going to remember, and I'm going to Shift + delete all the other memories. Every day is brand new day, and every person deserves a 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th chance. Life is about living, and not about whining.

Beautiful Cathedrals of Montreal!

I added music to my profile. The songs remind me of Montreal cathedrals. That tiny city has a lot more cathedrals than any other Canadian cities I visited! Century old catholic churches are so beautifully built, and visiting these places of worship gives me the much needed peace. I know People do not want to be in Montreal in winters, but to me that is the perfect time to spend a lot of quite time in praying. The Gothic style architecture, and suitable interiors makes it a world class museum. If ever given an opportunity, I would want to go back and spend some quality time in those power-prayer houses. Jesus is awesome, and he sure answers all our prayers! To him we are all the same, he doesn't need anyone to denounce their faith to accept him; he loves you for the person you're and not what you will become. Even-though, I am not a Christian, I know Jesus still loves me, just the way I do, ok may be little more than I do! :-)

Montreal in Winter:

This city was founded in 1600s

Inside the chapel

The sacred place

another angle

It doesn't matter to which religion you belong to, these places have a lot of energy and one should visit these places of worship at least once in a life time! 

Making peace with self!

One of the popular resolution and the toughest to maintain is being ''Positive''. Being positive is not something you inherit, it is not an inborn talent, but something that you constantly work on, it is all about practice. Developing a positive outlook towards life is very important, it is very instrumental to our success. Individual's goals vary as per taste and passion.  Success should never be defined as accomplishing set goals, instead it should be defined as the ''life'' after accomplishing your set goals. I know it is hard to phantom, give it a thought, you will be surprised with your outcome. When you're determined to take the road to success, then you should not complain about the bumpy rides. Success comes with a price to those who are willing to forgo the negative experiences. That is why we do not see that many successful people in our society. Anger and emotions should never tie you down from doing what is right to you and to others. Positive is light and Negative is dark. Life is not about how much money you make or the kind of life style you lead, but how much joy you can spread around, giving it to others and to keep it for yourself. Simply soaking in happiness makes life a lot more easier. Life is a celebration and needs to be celebrated. Worrying and wining is an addiction just like any other. Being positive is an attitude and one should wear it on their sleeves! 


Life is a process of happiness, and we should thoroughly enjoy it. There are going to be events that will tare you down, places you do not want to be in, things you do not want to hear, people you never wanted to meet but you need to always understand that you can act or react in such situations. Experiencing all sort of emotions is extremely important, and at the same time remembering you're the master and in control of your emotions, is also equally important. I know it is not going to be any easier, but you got to keep on going, always smiling and being positive! Love life and live fullest!! 


  

Dream, Wish, Desire and never give up!

I do not know how many of you have read ''Laws of Attraction'' book. I have not, so I would not go there :P  but from what I understand over the years is what you desire will present to you in the best possible ways in the near future.  Near future is a day or a week or couple of years, depending on what you wish for. Till then what you need to understand is your desires are in the making, like ordering a pizza at a Pizza Corner. One got to wait till ones wishes are delivered. ''Patience'' is the virtue here. Be positive, never complain and be one with your dreams, wish & desires. I distinctively remember an incident that took place a decade ago, a decade later it presented to me and I'm living it. I was staying at my 2nd sister's house, it was a small 2 bedroom apartment which was shared by her family of 5, and her father-in-law and by me. She was constructing a bungalow nearby, and this was the best she could find. My nieces and nephew were very young. Youngest was a toddler, the middle one was a year old and the oldest was around 3. The place was very chaotic.  In order to escape the chaos, I always went to the terrace at night and stayed there till late night.. all I did was gaze stars and talk to myself and to the mute sky. We lived in tenements and it over looked a runway, at night I saw a number of flights take-on and take-off. That was the most beautiful sight I would see, and I always told myself  ''one day I too wish to fly in one of those planes'', just that thought gave me a high.  I kept speaking thru' the late night, pretending to be a passenger, rehearsing my phrases, what I would say to my friends and family at the airport, the farewell speech, then talking to the flight attendants... this continued for many such nights; the sky,the stars, the moon, and the cool breeze patiently listened to me. For a person like me coming from a developing country like India, and living a hand to mouth life with none to support is almost impossible to be on a plane let alone travel a different country. Mind you, I did not even have a good scores in college to sail me through my dreams. I did not know how and when, all i wished was to travel by air to a foreign country at-least once.  Now, a decade later I realized my dreams, as a matter of fact, I have traveled to Europe, and North America.  Today, I live my dream!! Not only I travel by air frequently, I am even an United States of America's Permanent Resident. How cool is that?    I spoke of what I want than what I did not have, that makes a lot of difference. Remember, never let situation underestimate you; you shape your future and not the circumstances.  

All I ask is dream, dream big, learn to talk to yourself no matter how ridiculous it sounds. Content is good only when you have more than enough and you monopolize, and wants that can corrupt you to be greed; and it should be applied only to materialistic context; . Content is a tool designed to save you from boredom at least that is how I view it. Life is what you make and  life makes you only if you stop dreaming or easily surrendered to situations without a good fight. Last couple of years, I did not speak to myself in solitary, I was being controlled by the things around me, a break-up would cause me a tremendous heartache, did take away my passion to dream or to tell me as what I-desire-to-myself.  It doesn't  matter what your desires are, all it matters is you build your road in order to fulfill your wishes. An angel with a magic wond granting all your wishes and desires will make life easier only if she shows up every time you summon! Till then, you go to talk to yourself and dream on.. you will be surprised as how all your wishes were fulfilled! Don't give up on your dreams, and never cease to dream. Let the dream coming, let the talk begin.. 

Why convert?

I find Conversion of faith very offensive.

I know this will not fit well with religious people, but i have a point that i would like to put forward to religious persons. What is the purpose of converting others? I raise this question because the other day a lady and a gentle man knocked my door and asked me to convert to ''Jevohawitness'' there by joining their Church! In my eyes they looked like sales persons selling their faith. Why this desperation, will they know they offend me with this question, apparently they will not. Me at my best behavior told them that I am a person who will respect everyone and to me all gods are equal and the same. In fact, I have the same respect for an atheist, just like any other person from any other faith. I am a staunch believer that ''there-is-no-god'' is also a faith and needs to be respected. People do not understand that, and want to force others to follow what or whom they believe is god. You don't draw someone else's faith, don't try to introduce your god to someone else. Each and every person is different and there is a need for everyone  to connect to their creator in their way, what ever way it is. Just like how our practical experiences makes us strong,  similarly people should undergo spiritual experience  to make them spiritually strong.  Don't try to dictate others faith that is simply not your business! People who are religiously conservatives are the most unhappy souls, IMHO. They simply fail to appreciate the social diversity around them and wants to impose monotonous idiosyncrasy!

Selling your faith to a destitute soul is the cheapest thing you can do ever.   I have also seen people help the economically, financially deprived people and in turn they ask them to change faith? How is that okay ? Helping should come from with in, not because some book says so. The last thing you want to do is insult someone in the name of help and trade faith. A lot of converts in Africa still live a sedimentary lives, still struggling for a square meal and yes, still die of hunger! just changing their name to Ismael or Ester has not changed their living conditions. I wish missionaries learn to show empathy without refering to a book when it comes to fellow humans.. after all love is all we need!